Individual training for introverted leaders
Build identity-based habits that naturally
increase focus and impact so that you build a fulfilling career without guilt, exhaustion, or self-doubt
Are you an introverted leader with deep expertise in your field and do you recognize one or more of these situations:
- You find it hard to be visibible in your career in a way that gets you noticed in the right way and also feels good. Others have told you to show yourself more or to speak up about what you do but whenever you try, it’s exhausting and you doubt yourself.
- You struggle to communicate effectively. Your colleagues may have hinted (or said outright) that you’re bad at communicating. You feel a lot of pressure to avoid miscommunications and spend a lot of time editing your own emails and messages.
- You doubt whether you’re “leadership material”. You worry that you don't have the right leadership skills or that you need to be someone you’re not in order to be a good leader. You’re unsure about what direction to take and it’s causing a lot of stress and has a negative effect on your sleep.
- In the past, you built up a good routine and were consistent with your habits but now it’s hard to fit in habits that you know are good for you like exercising, drinking water, getting enough sleep, or a hobby that you enjoy. You feel guilty for not being disciplined enough and that it’s showing in everything that you do with your family, your health, and your work.
- You know a lot about habits already and you know exactly what you want to do but you don’t know where to start or slip into bad habits when you’ve had a hard day. You feel shame that this is happening and you worry about taking a next step in your career when you’re already so exhausted.
You’re not the only introverted leader who doubts whether they’re a good leader and if they have the right focus in their career. Having a fulfilling career - and a healthy lifestyle - seems very far away and may seem impossible at times.
In these moments, there are specific habit bottlenecks that are keeping you stuck.
You may not even be aware that this is happening. You just experience exhaustion, guilt, and self-doubt, and you feel “lost” or “stuck”.
“It’s like I’m a cat that’s stuck in a narrow PVC pipe and I can’t get out”
You can learn to let go of guilt, exhaustion, and self-doubt by building identity-based habits that naturally increase focus and impact
Identity-based habits that naturally increase focus and impact is the way to let go of guilt, exhaustion, and self-doubt and to build a fulfilling career as an introverted leader. You may not see it yet but it’s closer than you think. In many cases, small focus shifts and tweaks in your existing habits make all the difference. When you align those shifts and tweaks with what truly fulfills you, you create a lasting impact and strengthen the foundation to develop your natural leadership style. That’s what you’ll learn in this individual training.
With identity-based habits that naturally increase focus and impact you can:
- Break the vicious cycles of overwhelm and bad habits and get out of survival mode.
- Teach yourself good habits to relax and stay healthy without forcing yourself.
- Stay close to your own introverted nature and lead a team with confidence.
- Communicate effectively without being the loudest person in the room and be visible in your career in a natural way.
- Follow a career path that makes you happy and brings you fulfillment.
- Have a simple, coherent, and sustainable strategy to build habits in different areas of your life. And create focused direction in your career.
You may be thinking: I’ve built habits on my own before. Why do I need this program?
When you think about habits you probably think about:
- being disciplined.
- staying consistent.
- repeating a habit for 30 days.
What if I told you that this isn't the best way to build habits?
Yes, habits (good and bad ones) are ultimately formed by repetition
Yes, you need to stick with something long enough (be disciplined) if you want to actually get good at it
And yes, you need to show up (be consistent) to build trust with others and yourself
But...
If you're putting all your effort into being disciplined, staying consistent, and repeating habits then you're not setting yourself up for success. There’s a more effective way to build habits.
You see, habits are supposed to make your life easier
Habits are supposed to make your life easier - over time but also right now.
When you build identity-based habits that naturally increase focus and impact, you feel immediate relief.
You make progress in your career while also taking care of yourself and the people and causes you care about.
You feel supported and focused, even when life is crazy.
And a bonus effect?
Staying consistent and disciplined becomes easier. You do what's needed without feeling like you have to force yourself. And you feel confident that you can keep the right habits going and grow a career that matters.
These identity-based habits that naturally increase focus and impact are what we call Green Habits.
Why are Green Habits so effective?
Green Habits connect to your Natural Advantage®.
Your Natural Advantage® is when you’re completely in your element.
When you work with your Natural Advantage®, you naturally become a more effective leader. You have access to your unique capabilities and strengths and you make meaningful connections without much effort. You know when to take action and seize opportunities and when to take a step back and rest. You have access to your creativity, it's easier to work in flow, and it gives you energy. Others also notice your contributions and you feel valued and appreciated.
Green Habits open the door to your Natural Advantage®. In this way, Green Habits are more than just habits: they are your roadmap to a more meaningful and fulfilling career and you feel the effects from day 1.
Anyone can build Green Habits
Anyone can build Green Habits and the most successful leaders do just that. The problem is that when we look at these successful leaders, we try to copy their habits. We hope that since it works for them, it will work for us too.
But that's not how Green Habits work.
Green Habits are highly individual because they connect to YOUR Natural Advantage®.
The way to build Green Habits is to understand what YOU need to access your Natural Advantage®.
How can Green Habits help introverted leaders?
You've probably heard that while extroverts gain energy from busy social interactions, introverts loose energy. This is true for most introverts.
But there's more to this.
Introverts' and extroverts' brains are wired differently. Studies suggest that introverts are more sensitive to dopamine. In general, this means that introverts tend to:
- get overstimulated more easily by busy environments and need me time to recharge.
- observe more than they speak and need time to come up with what they want to say.
- use more nuanced language and have a slower paced communication style.
Introverts also have a strong inner critic. The inner critic is that little voice in your head that points out all the things that you're doing wrong. The inner critic can put so much pressure on you that you feel anxious, overthink things, and constantly doubt yourself, your capabilities, and your choices.
For introverted leaders in particular, the landscape is always shifting.
We have more knowledge at our fingertips than ever before and we’re living increasingly global lives. Tools like AI (Artificial Intelligence) can greatly speed up work processes but come with new challenges. You may have clients from around the world or lead a multicultural team. If you work remotely or live abroad yourself, you may feel disconnected from your family, roots, and values.
It’s easy to get lost in all the noise
A lot of introverted leaders feel lost with what direction to take in their career and how to connect their career with the lifestyle they really want.
They want to have a bigger, more meaningful impact with their work but they doubt whether they’re on the right track and they’re exhausted from pushing themselves all the time. A lot of introverts even feel like something is wrong with them because they don’t fit in their community or they don’t have the energy to keep up with the pace of career and social life.
It's essential for introverted leaders to have effective, sustainable habits to manage their energy, calm down the inner critic, and leverage their natural leadership style.
Green habits give you a framework to connect to your natural leadership style and to build sustainable habits that support you as a leader without comparing you to others or compromising who you are as an introvert.
In this program you’ll get
3 stepping stones to build Green Habits and how to apply them in your career right now.
Building habits will become easier and will feel supporting and nourishing instead of forceful.
1-1 guidance from a habit expert for introverted leaders so that you can build habits in a way that naturally supports you.
At the end of the program, you’ll know exactly what habits to focus on and how to maintain them, especially when you’re juggling multiple balls and a busy schedule.
So that you can develop your natural leadership style and build a fulfilling career while taking care of yourself and your loved ones in a way that feels sustainable and nourishing.
Results of participants before you
The training has a big impact for participants because they notice the effects in different areas of their lives. When you build Green habits, you’ll naturally:
- feel relief, peace of mind, and growing self-confidence as you take your next career steps.
- receive recognition from others about how you present yourself and lead in a calm, confident way. You won’t be the first introvert who has done this program to get offered a job that’s a great fit or an ideal client requesting to work with you.
- understand the value of your introverted skillset and have more appreciation for the way you and others naturally operate.
- feel a lasting motivation and internalize habits more easily.
Vicki - NLP Coach and Author
Kimi - Medical Writer and Editor
“There are many different types of coaches out there and I wanted to be able to share how I do things so that the right clients could come to me.”
“We keep getting told that we need to have a USP, a unique selling point, especially when I'm in a group where lots of people are therapists and coaches, I think it's really useful to have a sense of who I am without comparing myself to others.”
“Working with Mariella has reconnected me even more strongly to my own inner gifts and to listen to my intuition more deeply.”
“I was always trying to be efficient. The whole “time management thing”, doing as much as you can in the time you have. I was really getting stuck on efficiency.”
“From talking with Mariella and learning more about the strengths and advantages of being an introvert, I had many Aha-moments.”
“It’s important for my natural process to have a clear vision of where I need to get to and the things that I need to do. It's helped me clarify why certain strategies that I’ve used in the past have helped me. It’s not “I should” anymore but “I need to do this for me”. There’s a shift there. I'm much more motivated and it’s made it easier to internalize the habit.”
Santiago - Project and Communication Coach
Jessica - Literary Scholar
“I have a chaotic approach to my work, and Mariella destigmatized it, giving me comfort in this. She even showed me it could be a strength. She also made me realize that the business approaches we see on social media are for one type of personality. Those like you and me don't necessarily have to approach everything through social media and “extrovert” processes.”
“After our sessions, I've been feeling this kind of true motivation, but that has lasted. I've been able to use these tools in my everyday life and also professionally.”
“It feels so much more relaxing. Even though I still have a lot of things to figure out, which is normal, just the fact that I've been able to organize and categorize certain things and narrow things down has helped me to focus. It takes away the unnecessary background noise and allows me to concentrate on the true path that I want to achieve.”
“My job involves reading, interacting with authors, texts, and characters at my own pace. However, in real-world interactions, information can be overwhelming. I pick up emotionally charged information from non-verbal communication, which I process later.”
“My natural process differs from how research and writing are traditionally taught. Through the natural advantage model and sessions with Mariella, I realized it’s okay that my approach is slightly different from what is typically taught.”
“When I clarified my natural focus - what drives me when I'm in flow - I suddenly knew why I write articles. I now understand why I connect with a reader and what I want to convey in a text.”
Meet your trainer
Hi, my name is Dr. Mariella Franker
In my career, I struggled with many of the same problems as my clients. It became my mission to help introverted leaders to believe in themselves and have a bigger impact with their work.
I began my career as a scientist and scientific editor. After completing my PhD in molecular biology, I founded The Franker Message and started training introverts in 2020. I became a Habit Expert for Introverted Leaders and a certified Natural Advantage® coach.
Since then, I've worked closely with over 25 introverted leaders in individual programs and supported hundreds more with masterclasses, trainings, and my podcast The Exploring Introvert.
I've been featured in places such as Making Money Online podcast and MarieTV.
Born and raised in Suriname, South America, I now live in the Netherlands, Europe, with my husband and son.
Details of the program
You’ll start with a personal discovery session in Haarlem or we’ll meet on Zoom. During this session, we’ll look at one difficult situation in your career.
We’ll design a personal habit strategy for you and how to apply it in your career with the help of 3 stepping stones:
1. Discovering your Natural Advantage® as an introverted leader
2. Recognizing and taming the inner critic
3. Removing habit bottlenecks and building Green Habits in your career
For each stepping stone, you’ll get a handout to take with you at the end of the session.
Masterclass: Discover your Natural Advantage® as an introvert
Before your personal discovery session, you’ll receive the masterclass: “Discover your Natural Advantage® as an introvert”. You can keep this masterclass, so that you’ll always have it available when needed.
In this masterclass, you’ll learn exactly what your Natural Advantage® consists of and how to discover it.
We’ll use the knowledge from the masterclass to map out your personal habit strategy so that you can put it to use in your career.
4 Focus calls
After your personal discovery session, you’ll test out the strategy that we develop in real life. We’ll have 4 focus calls of 45-60 minutes each on Zoom every 2 weeks.
In these focus calls, we’ll apply the 3 stepping stones to other situations in your career to build Green Habits.
These habits can be around next steps in your career, developing leadership skills, creating mental space and me time, daily routines, sleep and healthy habits, or difficult conversations with coworkers, clients, and family members.
Because your daily experience is the starting point, you’ll immediately experience the effects of the training. You’ll directly apply what you learn in your daily life so that you immediately experience more energy, focus, and peace of mind.
€3100,-(ex. VAT)
Individual training program
This individual training includes:
- Recording of the masterclass “Discover your Natural Advantage® as an introvert”. The masterclass includes video, audio, full written transcript, and hand-out summarizing the main points of the masterclass.
- Personal discovery session on Thursday from 10:00 - 14:00 CET in Haarlem, The Netherlands, including location costs and lunch. If you cannot meet me in Haarlem, we’ll meet on Zoom.
- Folder with information about
- Discovering your Natural Advantage® as an introverted leader.
- Recognizing and calming the inner critic.
- Removing habit bottlenecks and building Green Habits in your career.
- 4 focus calls of 45-60 minutes each on Zoom every 2 weeks. In these sessions, we’ll build on the personal discovery session and further map out your personal habit strategy. You’ll get thorough guidance on how to apply it directly to difficult situations in your career.
- This program can be done in English or Dutch
Interested in this program?
Are you interested in this program? Email me at contact@thefrankermessage.com
We’ll plan an exploration call on Zoom.
During this call, we’ll explore together what’s hard for you right now as an introverted leader and what you want to achieve with this program. Based on that, we’ll have an honest look whether or not the program can help you.
The exploration call is free of change and there’s no obligation to join the program after the call.
It would be my pleasure to speak with you!
Warmly,
